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Crohn's Disease Forum | The place to meet others affected by Crohn's Disease, Colitis or other forums of IBD |
06-03-2006 04:45 AM
Ok. So we don't have alot of money. Who does? I had planned a vacation at a local camping resort. We were going to camp in a reallllly nice cabin...brand new. But, we decided recently to buy one of those portable type pools. That took up more money than I should have spent, but then I figured I could cancel the cabin and entertain our family outside with the new pool and swing set. Its a big pool and swing set too. Do I get anyyyy thank you's? Nope. My hubby just ripped me a new arse hole cuz I used part of the savings to get the pool. I will be able to put back money as soon as next week's check comes...but he doesn't tend to hear me. Worse yet, he knew I was going to use that money...he just didn't listen. As usual.
So this added with the stress of my current living situation...well, I have been in the bathroom all dang day. My current living situation is about to get worse. My mother-in-law, whom we live with in the upstairs of her bi-level is pissed at my hubby for getting mad at her for interfering with disciplining our son. Hubby was punishing our son, and she stuck her nose into it as usual. This is a huge problem here. She allows our son free-roam of everything the child wants to do. Wouldn't be so bad if we saw her once a week or so. But we see her every day for a few hours at a time. She also does not like my daughter too much, so that creates alot of jealousy on her part when she sees her brother getting away with everything, and Nanny lays into her for coughing. We have talked to "Nanny" about this, but she continues to give excuses on why she needs to butt in.
Making matters worse are his sisters. They are awfully jealous of us, always saying we are getting away with murder here. They think we should pay more rent...but don't take into consideration that we are here 24/7 in case THEIR mom needs anything. I take her to all of her appointments, pick up groceries and prescriptions and take care of the entire household maintenance. I think we should get a reprieve of paying more just since we are her maids and handymen. Her daughters do nothing to help with the household chores, thinking since we live here, it should be up to us. They also do not believe I am sick with Crohn's. They think I am making it up. And to make matters worse, they hate me beyond a doubt. The youngest is jealous of me and my relationship with her mom and her brother. I am just friends with her mom, and don't see her as a mom-figure. Why she is jealous of my marriage is beyond me, other than her hubby is a drunk and they don't get along like we do. I dunno. I have never done anything to either one of them yet they have made it quite clear they don't like me one bit. And they are allowed to say whatever they want that is hurtful to us, yet let us make a comment or stand up for ourselves and again we are the bad people who are taking advantage of an old lady. Let me be clear. I didn't move in here for the inheritance. I didn't move in here for any other reason than to help out two elderly sickly people who needed the help. That's all I did it for. His sisters think otherwise.
Then, to boot, I am the only one who does any of the household things. No one seems to see that my hubby is on the road more often and not able to get the hometime he used to have. So I am left to take care of everything. When I can't get certain things done, I get blamed. Because they see me as lazy and not ill, I should be doing more. Well, the joke is on them. We are going to move out. And all hell is gonna break loose!
Making matters worse are his sisters. They are awfully jealous of us, always saying we are getting away with murder here. They think we should pay more rent...but don't take into consideration that we are here 24/7 in case THEIR mom needs anything. I take her to all of her appointments, pick up groceries and prescriptions and take care of the entire household maintenance. I think we should get a reprieve of paying more just since we are her maids and handymen. Her daughters do nothing to help with the household chores, thinking since we live here, it should be up to us. They also do not believe I am sick with Crohn's. They think I am making it up. And to make matters worse, they hate me beyond a doubt. The youngest is jealous of me and my relationship with her mom and her brother. I am just friends with her mom, and don't see her as a mom-figure. Why she is jealous of my marriage is beyond me, other than her hubby is a drunk and they don't get along like we do. I dunno. I have never done anything to either one of them yet they have made it quite clear they don't like me one bit. And they are allowed to say whatever they want that is hurtful to us, yet let us make a comment or stand up for ourselves and again we are the bad people who are taking advantage of an old lady. Let me be clear. I didn't move in here for the inheritance. I didn't move in here for any other reason than to help out two elderly sickly people who needed the help. That's all I did it for. His sisters think otherwise.
Then, to boot, I am the only one who does any of the household things. No one seems to see that my hubby is on the road more often and not able to get the hometime he used to have. So I am left to take care of everything. When I can't get certain things done, I get blamed. Because they see me as lazy and not ill, I should be doing more. Well, the joke is on them. We are going to move out. And all hell is gonna break loose!
Anyway...my hubby will refuse to talk to his mom, because of some of the things that she has said that got back to him. She has absolutely no respect for him at all. She also says things hoping someone will tell him, thus starting a fight. She is good at it. She will tell me things his sisters say about him expecting me to tell him and start a fight with his sisters. This time, I didn't do it...so she tried with worse things that she said to me. She told me and I let them go out of my head as fast as they came in. She is getting frustrated. She puts me in the middle then it makes me look bad. I am so tired of it.
To make matters worse, I have had a flare basically since 2003. I have had constant diarhea since then. Some bleeding that can be quite severe. Doc told me yesterday at my Remicade treatment that if I can't get the stress under control, things will get worse. And the longer that your Crohn's disease is allowed to fester (or uncontrolled as mine is), the higher your chances go of getting cancer. Yippy. Nice. Just what I wanted to hear so I can lower my stress levels.
To make matters worse, I have had a flare basically since 2003. I have had constant diarhea since then. Some bleeding that can be quite severe. Doc told me yesterday at my Remicade treatment that if I can't get the stress under control, things will get worse. And the longer that your Crohn's disease is allowed to fester (or uncontrolled as mine is), the higher your chances go of getting cancer. Yippy. Nice. Just what I wanted to hear so I can lower my stress levels.
And I swear I am going thru menapause. Ain't life grand?!
Till tomorrow. Maybe I will have better news then. Doubt it, but it would be nice, huh?
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06-01-2006 02:45 AM
My name is Donna. I am a 38 y/o mommy of 2 wonderful kids. I am also happily married, most of the time anyway...lol. I love to joke around, and I try to make light of just about any situation I come in to. I have to. If I don't, then I get all stressed out, and well, that isn't good.
As most of you already know, I am a Crohnie. For those that don't know what that is, it is a person with Crohn's disease. It is a form of intestinal disease. It has so many symptoms that I wont bore you with the details. Just suffice it to know that it is like having an intestinal flu...ALL OF THE TIME! Sounds fun, doesn't it? It does make for some good jokes...let me tell you. Those I will tell later on.
I have an 8 y/o daughter, Jordan. She is the light of my life. Sure, we have our problems with her as any parent does with their kids. But she is my best cheerleader. She will help me when I am sick, does what she is told (mostly) and helps a great deal with her baby brother. I don't know what I would do without her help. Or without her either. She was 8 years in the making...and I think I respect her more for that reason.
I also have a 2 y/o son, Hunter (or lately, NO DON'T DO THAT!!). And he is the epitomy of the terrible two's. Right now we are potty training, and thanks to Nanny, he thinks its great to take a crap out in the front lawn! She laughs, thus making it "ok". We recently went to a local amusement park. He tells me he has to pee. I didn't get to him quick enough. He whips out his lil pp and proceeded to take a leak in the middle of the pathway with a few dozen laughing onlookers. When he was done, he stated that Nanny would have laughed. I on the otherhand, was mortified. Kids. They make you laugh, they make you cry. But when it is all said and done, I wouldn't change them in any way!
My hubby. Rich. He is my knight in slightly tarnished armor. Believe it or not, I met him in a chat room in Yahoo, of all places. Normally I would have waited to meet him after weeks of chatting online, weeks of phone chatting, then I would pass all the info I had on him to a friend, let her know where I was meeting the man, and go from there. There are sooo many creeps out there (I think I dated too many of them!), you have to be careful. But this time, I wasn't. We chatted and in 35 minutes he had me talked into meeting him that night. It was Memorial Day Weekend, I was bored, and didn't have my daughter with me. So what the heck I say. I drive the 45 minutes to his house, and the rest is history. We met in 2002, got preggers in 2003 (actually New Year's Eve 2002) and married in 2004. He has been a blessing to me. He pretty much babies me when he is home. I "rock his world" as he tells me every day. And, he rocks mine. He lets me do what I want, when and where I want. He lets me be me. And, I love him with all of my heart.
My ex. Why do I put this in here? Well, he is still a major part of my life. We share our daughter, and he is a close friend. I married him in 1987 when I was 19 and left him in 2001 (we met on the 4th of July, and I left him on the same day 15 yrs later! Irony at its best) . He was a control freak, and made sure my life was his. And for a long time, it worked. I had childhood issues I needed to deal with, so I was seeing a therapist. In the process, I realized alot about me, who I was, and what I had lost of me when I married him. He would forbid me to have friends, spend money, even tho I was working 2 jobs, and the like. Now, don't get me wrong. He is really a great guy. He does have control issues. But he is a great guy. He just wasn't great for me. We share 50/50 custody of our daughter. We discuss things better now than we ever did. He comes to my house to help with things Rich has no knowledge on. He is there if I need help with things. And I love his new wife. They have a strange relationship, but to each their own. His new wife treats my daughter with love and concern, and that is all I can ask for.
I also have some fish. Nemo and Cory. Nemo is a fat fancy gold fish, and Cory is a cory catfish. Both of which Jordan just HAD TO HAVE!! I heard, but Mommy, I swear I will take care of them!! I promise. Well, I haven't seen much of that. I also have a cockatiel named Kenzie. We thought it was a female, but since it has matured a little more, we have decided it is a pain in the neck. It is also a male. And, it is in love with me, and Lord help anyone who comes near me when he is out! He will sit on my shoulder and "make out" with my cheek. All of this pisses my cat off to no end. And the cat's name is Putz, and he is my best friend in the whole world. He has helped me survive some really rough times. And he is the sweetest cat I could have ever asked for. We saved him from death row. We went to the pound to get a kitten for my daughter. We walked past where he was caged and he stuck both paws out and nabbed my jeans with his claws. I walked past him several times because he was alot older than I wanted, each time only to get claws in my legs. He wouldn't do this to any one else. Just me. Soooo....I finally asked to see this cat. When they let him out, he went right to me. He laid like a baby in my arms, and he was to be put to sleep the next day. I had to take him, didn't I? He made himself right at home. He wormed his way easily into my heart, and I would never give him up for any reason.
I am into several different things. I am training to become a certified Reiki Healer. That is where they lay hands on you and concentrate positive energy to you. I will blog more on that in a bit.
I also love anything paranormal. I would LOVE to work for TAPS. I have had experiences with ghosts if you will, ever since I was a child. I know some of you are saying its a lot of hooie...but I believe. I also am into psychic things, anything paranormal and creepy. My favorite author is Anne Rice. I love her vampire series! I love thunderstorms, and if I wasn't working at the time with TAPS, I would be a storm chaser. I would LOVE to see a tornado...a big one, in a huge field where it wouldn't hurt a thing mind you. Some day, I will go and do these things I would so love to do!
I am into several different things. I am training to become a certified Reiki Healer. That is where they lay hands on you and concentrate positive energy to you. I will blog more on that in a bit.
I also love anything paranormal. I would LOVE to work for TAPS. I have had experiences with ghosts if you will, ever since I was a child. I know some of you are saying its a lot of hooie...but I believe. I also am into psychic things, anything paranormal and creepy. My favorite author is Anne Rice. I love her vampire series! I love thunderstorms, and if I wasn't working at the time with TAPS, I would be a storm chaser. I would LOVE to see a tornado...a big one, in a huge field where it wouldn't hurt a thing mind you. Some day, I will go and do these things I would so love to do!
Well, that is it for tonite. We are about to get a good storm, and I like to sit on my porch to watch them. So, until next time.......
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